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2025-10-31

Sober Intimacy at Dry Vibes Philly (2024) — Candace Johnson x Cheldin Barlatt Rumer (THIS IS IT NETWORK™)

By Candace Johnson

Sober Intimacy at Dry Vibes Philly (2024) — Candace Johnson x Cheldin Barlatt Rumer (THIS IS IT NETWORK™)
Sober Intimacy at Dry Vibes Philly (2024) — Candace Johnson x Cheldin Barlatt Rumer (THIS IS IT NETWORK™)

Guiding good talk, good touch & good vibes—without alcohol.

At Dry Vibes Philly (2024), intimacy & relationship coach Candace Johnson—creator of the TOUCHY/FEELY intimacy card game —sat down with Cheldin Barlatt Rumer, CEO & Executive Producer of THIS IS IT NETWORK™, for a candid conversation on building intimacy in alcohol‑free spaces. This blog distills the best insights, scripts, and take‑home rituals so you can practice sober intimacy tonight. Links: Dry Vibes Philly (https://gemlifecollective.com/pages/dry-vibes-experience?srsltid=AfmBOorXol_5-GZSRShe2Yyl6ZnYK2j_1Sg5_OWHPows41s2mGcNmT_r); TOUCHY/FEELY intimacy card game (https://touchyfeelygame.com/checkouts/cn/hWN4sCtOr6oXqMURnpgeX71m/en-us?_gl=1%2Avooyic%2A_gcl_au%2AMjU3MzkxMzk4LjE3NTczNjQyMjUuOTQ3Nzc5NTUxLjE3NjIzNzY3NDguMTc2MjM3Njc0OA..&_r=AQAB8zYA4Ax4TMJjbtJovqu7XWoNQsuahoJcSny_dmATzUU&cart_link_id=J6foM7Ta&channel=buy_button&preview_theme_id=132933353722); Cheldin Barlatt Rumer (https://thisisittv.com/cheldin/); THIS IS IT NETWORK™ (https://thisisittv.com/)

Watch the 30 minute Sober Intimacy talk

Why sober intimacy?

Presence beats performance. When the social default isn’t a drink, we tend to notice more, listen better, and set kinder boundaries. That’s not just “self‑control”—it’s nervous‑system awareness and consent working together.

Key benefits:

  • Clearer communication (less blur, more truth)
  • Emotional safety (opt‑out without guilt)
  • Self‑confidence & self‑assertiveness (say what you need, kindly)
  • Better memory & repair (remember what you promised; follow through)

TOUCHY/FEELY: the sober‑friendly framework

TOUCHY/FEELY intimacy card game pairs talk prompts with opt‑in touch prompts and built‑in safety:

  • Comfort Check‑In: “How ready do I feel?”
  • Levels: Start light; go deeper only if everyone’s ready.
  • Builds self-esteem: Find confidence in the comfort of sharing
  • Vibe maker: Let the chemistry unfold based on the pleasure of talking + touching

Why it works: sober‑curious or fully sober, you get structure that keeps vibes warm and boundaries clear—without the therapy vibes.

Date‑night, friends’ night, or group facilitation

  • Date‑night: Begin talk‑only, then add one opt‑in touch card later.
  • Friends’ night: Keep it playful; rotate partners for variety.
  • Facilitators/coaches: Open with the Comfort Check‑In, state pass rules, and model concise answers.

Learn more about Dry Vibes 2026 by clicking here. Links: Learn more about Dry Vibes 2026 by clicking here. (https://gemlifecollective.com/pages/dry-vibes-experience?srsltid=AfmBOorXol_5-GZSRShe2Yyl6ZnYK2j_1Sg5_OWHPows41s2mGcNmT_r)

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Explore TOUCHY/FEELY intimacy card game for wellness. Links: TOUCHY/FEELY intimacy card game for wellness. (https://touchyfeelygame.com/pages/touchy-feely-restorative-wellness)

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